自我形象低(low self-esteem)的徵象、成因、輔導和預防的方法

自我形象低(low self-esteem)的徵象、成因、輔導和預防的方法

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自我形象低的徵象：

1. 它會影響人出現以下的表現：
2. 過度敏感：²⁰ 容易感到被排斥、傷害。

3. 喜歡爭辯：²¹

4. 喜歡批評別人：

5. 沒法容忍別人的意見：²²

6. 容易發怒：²³

7. 過份妒忌別人：²⁴

8. 只愛說話，不願聆聽：²⁵

9. 愛收集東西(無用的)： ²⁶

10. 喜愛榮譽、學位：有時過份著重衣著和奢華生活：²⁷

11. 不能接受失敗和讚賞：²⁸

12. 不敢將自己的內心世界坦誠地告訴別人：²⁹

13. 完美主義：³⁰

14. 常常自責，自怨甚至自恨：³¹

15. 常與人比較，對他人評語過份重視：³²

16. 過度害羞，傾向離群：³³

17. 工作無次序和條理：³⁴

18. 容易抑鬱：³⁵

19. 優越感或努力去控制別人：³⁶

20. 此外，還有其他一些表現。³⁷

Denial_Process

When I saw the TV series, House, M.D., he listed the five steps of a denial process for patients for terminal illness. Of course, he was cruel enough to impose on his fellow doctor and the patient related.
1) Denial
2) Anger
3) Bargaining
4) Depression
5) Acceptance
Since it is a strong defence mechanism from the internal system of human being, it may be applied all sorts of life experience we are facing.
For example, when we face criticism form others, we will use the first two steps, and the third one is not bargaining, usually attacking or revenge.

Our attitude may change dramatically or attack others with furious words or even actions.

Clearly there is another mechanism working: tends to deny it altogether.
In contrast to the above mentioned 5 steps, it follows a different route, which draws the client from the reality; but to his/her own virtual reality.

For him/her, it is the cold fact or reality, while others clear see the contrary.

This can be applied to psychosis building-up?
Besides, the devil-like self-deception may be related to this process.

Psychological pressure as a way to grow?

Psychologial or physical pressure is always taken as a negative force imposed on human life.
Different methods to reduce pressure are employed by people in all walks of life. It seems that it is a general truth that pressure is bad for us.

On the other hand, people are advised to do more exercise (not overloaded). This advice is in fact adding more pressure on your body in order to force it to eliminate the waste in a higher rate.

For an athlete who wants to upgrade his/her ability, he/she is trying to liftup more weight little by little, rather than reducing them.

Actually, pressure forces us to grow if we can cope with it in a wiser way and see it in a different way.

For Christians who want to reduce pressure, we may meditate on two verses:

Rom 8:28 But we know that to the ones loving God all things work together for good, to the ones being called according to [His] purpose. - There may be a purpose in the difficulties we face: at least we can learn to "upgrade" ourselves.

1Co 10:13 No temptation has taken hold of you*, except a human [one] [or, [one] characteristic of humanity]. But God [is] faithful, who will not allow you* to be tempted beyond what you* are able [or, capable of], _but_ with the temptation He will also make the way out, for your* being able to endure [it].